This is an interesting article that makes you think...
http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,287211,00.html
I'll preface this by saying: I am aware in talking with friends, acquaintances, and a therapist that I'm unusual in the way I feel about boyfriends. Detailed Explaniation below main subject for those not interested...
Anyway, back on subject...
This article mentions "marriage partner" and that "true love" or lust may not be the best marriage partner. I totally disagree about this statement. Now if "true love" or lust is basically just an intense crush...then yes, it's not the basis for a life together. However, if it is "true love" then I believe that is the best basis. True love, to me, means that you love and are willing to be with this person knowing their flaws and even if you can't stand these flaws, still liking the person overall and get a basic enjoyment from being with them. A marriage partner suggests you want the same things from life and are compatible. Even if love grows I don't think it will be as with-standing as "true love".
For Me: I either really like someone and have great chemistry from the get-go, or I don't! There is no in between. I've never really liked someone and then said after 2 months of dating, decide I don't really like them anymore. And I've never dated anyone and had chemistry appear later, NEVER. I've learned after a few trials that if there is no spark in the first date, there never will be. Even half a spark doesn't cut it! I'm the type that if there is chemistry, I'm set to go long-term with the person. I think it's a basic chemical thing really. They have proven it in insects and rats that pheramones are responsible for picking one mate over another. And as I'm finding out, my Central Nervous System is very sensitive and reactive to drugs, food, and environment so it actually makes very good sense that I'm more suseptible to pheramones. Now this doesn't really make me too happy because it does make it harder to date....However I'm a loyal partner for life due to this... Not to say that it is unbreakable either. There is a point when the pheramone link is broken due to years of stress over serious problems in a partner.
Now for the people who are the reverse of me, this article may be true. And be the best course of action. So, for all the people reading, which type are you?? : )
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This sums up my perspective...(from a MSN article)
"Getting married wasn't about settling down or having stability; it was about joining forces for an adventure neither of us could have alone. It was like standing at the edge of a cliff with rushing water beneath us. We were happy, terrified — and against all expectations, we jumped. But we were holding hands, and even if we were falling fast, we were together."
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